I was just thinking how some of you will react to this but I do agree with this. I said earlier on quoting the President of Malawi,
''Most African women are taught to endure abusive marriages... because they are not empowered economically, they depend on their husband”
A couple of men thought it was not true including my best friend. I dont blame him. Recently things have started to happen but not to all African women. Think of the continent-how many women in their 40s,50s and above are educated? Think of other parts of the developing world-how many of these women has an education? I don't have the figures but there are many who rely on their husbands and would not afford to leave them.
It is hard to imagine why anyone would want to do that-stay in hell,one may ask.
The truth is most women have not been able to get out of this mentality because of lack of economic sustainabilty.
Educated African women do not fit in the above quotation since they are now able to stand and support themselves. Some though still hold on to the teachings of their mothers and aunt- stay by your husband no matter what- gomera uripo.
The generation of our mothers grew up feeling that way and most could leave for years or even a lifetime of battering all because they could not face the world without their abusers.
There is hope for the new generation who are now getting more and more independent financially and socially.
We are getting there.