Showing posts with label Other. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Other. Show all posts

Friday, 19 September 2025

Brussels Out, Musk In: Britain’s Theatre of Sovereignty

 It’s almost comedic how Britain’s political narrative loops back on itself. During the Brexit campaign, the rallying cry was sovereignty. We were told Britain was shackled by Brussels laws dictated, borders compromised, trade regulated by faceless Eurocrats. The solution? Leave. Cut ties. Stand tall as an independent nation finally in charge of its own destiny.

And yet, barely out of the European Union, Britain has developed a peculiar new habit: a cultural and political obsession with being lectured, inspired, or guided by foreign figures who hold no formal authority over this country. American politicians, Silicon Valley tycoons, global corporations voices from abroad suddenly loom larger in the British imagination than the bureaucrats we were supposedly desperate to escape. Elon Musk tweets, and the headlines here treat it like policy. Donald Trump sneezes, and Nigel Farage reaches for a handkerchief.

The contradiction is stark. Sovereignty was sold as freedom from outside influence, but what Britain seems to want is not independence, but a different master. Brussels out, Musk in. Out with rules written in EU committees, in with sermons from billionaires and self-styled strongmen.

Perhaps this was never about control at all. Perhaps the real issue was not whether Britain was guided by others, but which others it was willing to follow. Sovereignty, in this sense, is less about autonomy and more about taste. If the influencer aligns with British sensibilities charisma, wealth, novelty, or the right populist flair then their words are embraced, amplified, and parroted across airwaves. The same people who cried “take back control” now seem happy to let outsiders set the tone, so long as it’s the right outsider.

It’s a kind of selective obedience. Brussels is portrayed as dull, technocratic, and uncharismatic. Elon Musk, on the other hand, is seen as daring, disruptive, entertaining even when his ventures fall flat. Trump speaks with bravado, and Farage mirrors it without shame. Global corporations set workplace trends, moral judgments, or climate pledges, and Britain rushes to align with them, sometimes more eagerly than with its own homegrown commitments. The foreign hand pats the nation on the back, and the nation leans in for more.

What this reveals is something deeper: sovereignty, as it is lived in Britain, has never truly meant autonomy. It has meant the right to choose who tells us what to do. And in that sense, Brexit delivered not independence, but a reshuffling of influence. The old bureaucrats were swapped for new idols. The leash was not removed, only refitted.

There is an irony here worth sitting with. The nation that insisted it could “stand on its own two feet” seems most comfortable when leaning on the words, money, or validation of outsiders. True independence is messy, difficult, and requires a confidence Britain has not yet cultivated. What we have instead is a theatre of sovereignty loud performances of “taking back control” alongside quiet obedience to whichever foreign voice flatters us most.

Independence was promised as self-rule, but has delivered only the freedom to choose our influencers. Sovereignty has become a stage act: Brussels is out of the script, but the foreign voices keep their starring roles. And so, Britain stumbles forward, free of Brussels but never truly free. Independence was promised as self-rule, but has delivered only the freedom to choose our influencers. Sovereignty has become a stage act: Brussels is out of the script, but the foreign voices keep their starring roles.

We can already see this dynamic at play in domestic politics. Nigel Farage and the Reform Party draw openly from the playbook of American populism, echoing Trumpian phrases and postures as though Westminster were a satellite stage of Washington. Culture-war talking points often arrive here second-hand, imported wholesale from US debates about immigration, gender, and race. The country that once insisted it hated foreign rules now eagerly repeats foreign rhetoric.

This is why the conversation about sovereignty feels hollow. What Britain has reclaimed is not independence but selectivity: the right to swap one form of influence for another. The EU may be gone, but the appetite for outside validation remains. Sovereignty, in practice, has become less about governing ourselves and more about choosing which foreign hand we’d rather applaud.

Disclaimer: I am one of those who voted to remain in the EU

Monday, 8 September 2025

What does truth mean in 2025

Hatred is the lowest place we can take ourselves toward others. Whatever mask it wears belief, politics, race, fear it is always the same descent. Hatred diminishes before it destroys. It corrodes the one who carries it before it wounds the one it targets. And yet hatred today is not something hidden, whispered, or shameful. It has become ordinary currency in our politics, our media, and our everyday speech.

Across the UK, Europe, America, and beyond, hatred is spoken aloud, without embarrassment. It is justified, dressed up as freedom, or framed as “saying it like it is.” In some places, it is cheered on openly. In others, it circulates in coded speech, in jokes, in offhand remarks that are meant to cut but also to normalize. The more it circulates, the less it shocks. The less it shocks, the more it grows.

Lies as Fuel

In the UK, one of the most striking recent lies came when Nigel Farage, leader of Reform UK, declared before a U.S. congressional committee that Britain had become “like North Korea” in its approach to free speech. It was not a statement made in fear or confusion, but a deliberate exaggeration designed for outrage. And yet, the irony was sharp: he was free to say it in the first place. Would he have dared to say such a thing in North Korea? Of course not. There, such words would mean disappearance. Here, they meant headlines, retweets, and another round of outrage theatre.

And what happened next? Nothing. No lawsuit, no sanction, no accountability. The lie simply entered circulation, another drop of poison in an already contaminated well. And there are some who believe him.

Lies like this are not innocent errors. They are calculated tools. They exaggerate oppression in order to diminish the very real suffering of others. They position relatively minor inconveniences mask mandates, inclusive language, equality policies as though they were the chains of dictatorship. By doing so, they trivialize the lives of those who actually live under authoritarian regimes, those who are genuinely imprisoned for speaking, those who are silenced with violence.

And yet, such lies flourish because they tap into something deeper: the desire for grievance. Lies become fuel for hatred. They give permission to despise others, to blame, to reject. If we are “like North Korea,” then those who resist me are tyrants. If I am a victim of censorship, then my hatred is self-defense. Lies clear the ground for hatred to be seeded and grown.

This is not unique to the UK. In the United States, lies about stolen elections and shadow conspiracies have driven people to violence. In Europe, lies about migrants “flooding” borders, “taking over” cities, or “destroying culture” dominate headlines and shape entire political campaigns. The lies differ in content but not in function: they are scaffolding for hatred.

There is something chilling in how ordinary hatred has become. Once, hatred wore a hood or hid in shadows. Now it wears suits, appears on television, and is retweeted by millions. It is presented as patriotism. It is framed as common sense. It is excused as humour.

Hatred today is not always about shouting slurs. It is about the slow normalization of contempt. It is about the subtle suggestion that some people do not belong, that they are dangerous, that they are “too many.” It is about everyday language that frames neighbours as threats, colleagues as enemies, strangers as invaders.

This ordinariness is its power. When hatred becomes banal, it no longer alarms us. We scroll past it, we shake our heads, we sigh, we carry on. And so it spreads, not through spectacular moments of violence alone, but through repetition, through tolerance of the intolerable, through small lies left unchallenged.

What Is Truth in 2025?

We are told we live in a “post-truth” era. But perhaps that is too neat. It is not that truth has disappeared, but that truth itself has become contested terrain. To claim something as “true” today is not only to make a statement about facts; it is to enter a battlefield of politics, identity, and power.

Whose truths are recognized? Whose truths are discredited? Consider Palestinians who tell their stories of occupation, dispossession, and loss, only to be dismissed as fabricators or agitators. Consider Black Britons who speak of racism, only to be told that racism is an American import. Consider women who testify to harassment, only to have their words framed as overreaction.

Truth has always been about power. Facts do not float freely in the air. They are mediated by institutions, by governments, by the press, by platforms that decide what to amplify and what to bury. In 2025, this feels sharper than ever: truth is not just what is said, but who is permitted to say it, and who is believed when they do.

The danger is not only that lies circulate but that truths are disqualified. Some truths are rendered “biased,” “emotional,” “exaggerated,” while lies are given the status of “opinion.” This inversion destabilizes public trust. If every truth is called a lie, and every lie is defended as perspective, then what grounds remain for shared life?

Global Mirrors

The erosion of truth and the normalization of hatred are not confined to one place. They mirror each other across borders.

In Israel and Palestine, truth itself has become weaponized. Each side accuses the other of fabricating, of manipulating, of erasing. But the asymmetry is clear: one side’s truth is broadcast by powerful allies, while the other side’s truth is often silenced, deplatformed, or censored. Here we see how truth is not just about accuracy but about who controls the megaphone.

In the United States, truth fractures along partisan lines. A fact on one news channel is dismissed as propaganda on another. “Truth” has become less about evidence than about loyalty to a camp. In this landscape, lies about migrants, about gender, about elections, thrive. They are not believed because they are credible; they are believed because they are useful.

Across Europe, far-right parties gain momentum by promising to restore “truth” against “wokeness.” Their truth is framed as common sense: that there are too many migrants, that nations are under siege, that tradition is under threat. These narratives feed on fear, nostalgia, and resentment. They rebrand exclusion as realism, and hatred as honesty.

And in the UK, culture wars dominate headlines. Migrants, trans people, environmental activists, “lefties,” “centrists” anyone who challenges the status quo becomes a target. Lies circulate about boats, about pronouns, about cancel culture. Each lie becomes a spark, igniting hatred that is framed not as cruelty but as “truth-telling.”

Philosophical Reflection: The Weight of Hatred

Hatred is not only a political force; it is a moral and existential one. To hate is to diminish oneself. It narrows vision, it hardens the heart, it reduces the complexity of the other into a caricature. It feeds on lies because lies make hatred easier. Lies simplify the world into good and evil, us and them, victim and oppressor.

But hatred also has a seduction. It gives a sense of clarity in a confusing world. It offers belonging to those who feel lost. It provides an illusion of strength to those who feel powerless. In this sense, hatred thrives not only because of lies told from above but because of the fears and insecurities that lie beneath.

The question is: what becomes of truth in such a world? Truth is harder work than hatred. Truth requires nuance, patience, listening. Truth resists simplicity. It insists that people are more than their labels, that suffering cannot be explained away, that justice requires complexity.

In 2025, to hold onto truth is to resist the seduction of hatred. It is to refuse the ease of lies. It is to insist that solidarity matters more than grievance, that compassion is stronger than contempt.

Hatred is the lowest place we can take ourselves toward others. Whatever excuse we clothe it in politics, religion, race, or fear it drags us down before it harms anyone else. In this moment, across continents, hatred feels ascendant. Lies multiply, truths are silenced, and the very meaning of reality is contested.

And yet, truth is not gone. It persists in the voices of those who refuse silence. It persists in the solidarity of those who choose compassion over contempt. It persists in every act that resists the seduction of hatred and insists on the dignity of others.

The question of 2025 is not whether truth exists, but whether we are willing to defend it whether we are willing to name lies as lies, to resist hatred in its banal forms, to hold on to the fragile but vital possibility of shared life.

Because hatred will always offer us a low place. The challenge is whether we can choose not to descend.

Friday, 29 August 2025

Flags, Fear, and Fragile Identities: Britain’s Politics of Exclusion

 


Walk through Britain today and the flags are hard to miss. They hang from council offices and roundabouts, they stretch across bridges, and they remain taped to garden fences months after the jubilee bunting should have come down. People wear them on their shoulders in supermarkets, pub gardens, even on school runs. This isn’t the occasional burst of national celebration we associate with football tournaments or royal weddings. It is an everyday saturation a choreography of patriotism woven into the mundane.

Confident nations rarely need to wallpaper themselves with symbols. The very proliferation of Union Jacks is a confession: if we keep repeating who we are, perhaps we’ll finally believe it. The shift has even been institutionalised. In 2021, the government changed official guidance to encourage the Union Flag to be flown on all UK government buildings every day of the year, not just on designated days (BBC, 24 March 2021). ¹ Flags became permanent backdrops to ministerial press conferences, no longer celebratory but compulsory, visual proof of belonging.

At the same time, hostility towards asylum seekers has hardened into national obsession. Small boats crossing the Channel dominate headlines and news cycles. In 2024, 37,556 people were detected arriving by small boat, up from 29,437 in 2023 but lower than the 45,774 peak in 2022 (Home Office, 2025).² Relative to population size, these numbers are modest: Germany, France, and Italy all process far more asylum claims. But the imagery of dinghies at Dover has been elevated into existential crisis.

The politics follows the imagery. From the Conservative government’s failed Rwanda deportation scheme, which cost hundreds of millions but never actually relocated a single asylum seeker, to Labour’s decision in 2024 to cancel it and redirect focus toward expanded border operations, asylum has been used less as policy than as performance. The boats matter less for who is in them than for what they symbolise. They are made to stand for everything the nation fears: invasion, loss, disorder, weakness.

Flags and boats move together. One reassures us who we are; the other reminds us who we are not. But if identity needs this much staging, it reveals its own fragility.

This fragility is not new. British identity has long been negotiated through contradiction. For centuries, empire allowed Britishness to be expansive, exported with confidence across the globe. After empire, identity was rebuilt around the welfare state, postwar resilience, and institutions like the NHS. From the 1970s onward, Britishness was mediated through Europe: at once part of the project and always apart from it.

Brexit was supposed to answer the question of who we are. Instead, it has deepened the uncertainty. Sovereignty is invoked like a prayer, flags drape over the ruins of austerity, and asylum seekers are offered up as scapegoats.

Even earlier, the Windrush generation was invited to rebuild Britain after the war, only to face hostility, racism, and eventually betrayal through the Windrush scandal where Black Britons were wrongly detained or deported under “hostile environment” immigration policies (Home Office, 2018). The same nation that claimed pride in multiculturalism also punished those who embodied it. This double movement invitation and exclusion  is a core feature of British identity politics. Today’s asylum debates are another turn of that wheel.

The media amplifies the insecurity. Tabloids scream about “invasions” while NHS waiting lists lengthen and local councils declare bankruptcy. Protests against asylum accommodation flare in towns where the anger should be directed at underfunding, not at refugees. The asylum seeker becomes a lightning rod for structural failures. The politics of exclusion is useful: it directs anger away from those in power and toward those with none.

Meanwhile, the flags flutter over food banks. They decorate roundabouts in towns hollowed out by austerity. They cover bridges even as they span communities divided by inequality. Symbols stand in for substance, but symbols cannot fill fridges or pay rents.

The unusual thing about this moment is not that Britain has asylum seekers it always has, from Huguenots to Ugandan Asians to Syrians. Nor is it that Britain argues about borders every nation does. What is unusual is the sheer saturation of symbols and scapegoats: flags everywhere, boats on every bulletin, identity rehearsed daily in a register of fragility.

It is worth asking: what does it mean when a country defines itself primarily by what it excludes? A confident identity metabolises difference; a brittle identity panics at it. A confident country does not need to cover every roundabout in bunting. A confident politics does not need to vilify the desperate to feel whole.

 

What We Can Do

We cannot strip every flag from every roundabout, nor can we undo decades of media hostility overnight. But we can refuse the swap of symbols for substance. When the next row about boats fills the headlines, ask: who benefits when our anger is directed at asylum seekers instead of austerity?

We can reclaim identity in ways that are expansive, not defensive. To belong here should not mean to exclude. It can mean resilience, creativity, solidarity. It can mean seeing asylum seekers as neighbours, not invaders.

We can demand competence rather than theatre: schools funded, clinics staffed, councils resourced. A politics that works does not need costumes.

And we can remind ourselves that flags cannot fix what is broken. They can decorate; they can commemorate but they cannot substitute for justice, dignity, or care.

Britain today is caught in a contradiction: the louder the flags wave, the more fragile the identity beneath. A nation sure of itself does not need to rehearse its belonging every day. A nation at ease with itself does not need scapegoats. The real challenge is not the asylum seeker in the boat; it is the country on the shore, unsure of who it is without an enemy to measure itself against.

Because in the end, an identity built on fear is no identity at all. And no number of flags will ever cover that truth.

 

 

 

 

 

References

  1. BBC News. “Union flag to be flown on all UK government buildings every day.” 24 March 2021.
  2. UK Home Office. “Irregular migration to the UK, year ending December 2024.” Published February 2025.
  3. The Guardian. “Labour scraps Rwanda deportation scheme after election victory.” July 2024.
  4. UK Home Office. Windrush Lessons Learned Review. 2018.

 

Thursday, 28 August 2025

What’s Happening to the UK? How the Far-Right Found Its Voice in a Broken Nation

 

Hotels across the UK are becoming the stage for an ugly drama. Outside, crowds gather with flags and placards, chanting slogans like “Make Epping Safe Again” and “No More Silence – We Fight.” Inside, asylum seekers families, children, people fleeing wars and persecution wait in fear.

This is not a random uprising of “concerned citizens.” This is the far-right, emboldened and organised, feeding off Britain’s political failures. And unless the country wakes up, this will not just be about hotels. It will reshape what it means to be British.

To understand why far-right protests are spreading, we must look at the past decade. Successive Conservative governments promised to “take back control.” Brexit was sold as a cure to everything more housing, more money for the NHS, safer streets, restored sovereignty. None of it came true.

Instead, austerity hollowed out communities. Libraries closed. Youth centres disappeared. Local councils went bankrupt. The NHS collapsed under waiting lists. Wages stagnated while billionaires got richer.

People were promised transformation. What they got was decline.

And into this betrayal stepped the far-right. They pointed to migrants and asylum seekers as the reason everything feels broken. Conveniently, these shifts blame away from the politicians who created the mess.

Let’s not pretend this is just fringe extremists. Senior politicians have poured fuel on the fire. Former Home Secretary Suella Braverman spoke of an “invasion” on Britain’s southern coast. She called the arrival of asylum seekers a “hurricane.”

This language is not accidental. It’s designed to dehumanise, to reduce vulnerable people into a faceless threat. When politicians talk like this, they give the far-right permission to act. They make protests outside hotels feel justified, even righteous.

And Braverman is not alone. For years, both Labour and Conservative governments have played the same game: treating migration as a problem to be “tough” on, rather than a reality to be managed with fairness and compassion. This cowardice has allowed far-right narratives to thrive.

The protests are not just happening in the streets they are planned online. Facebook groups, often filled with recycled lies, are the beating heart of the movement. One exaggerated incident is enough to trigger outrage across dozens of towns.

The pattern is predictable:

  • A rumour spreads usually unverified.
  • Far-right pages amplify it with memes and dramatic captions.
  • Local groups pick it up, framing asylum seekers as a danger.
  • Outrage builds until it spills into the real world.

This is not “organic community anger.” It is manufactured, fuelled by algorithms that reward hate because hate generates clicks.

What makes this truly depressing is how misplaced the anger is. Protesters shout at hotel windows, but the real causes of their despair are elsewhere.

  • It wasn’t asylum seekers who slashed local services. It was George Osborne’s austerity budgets.
  • It wasn’t asylum seekers who caused housing shortages. It was decades of government failure to build affordable homes.
  • It isn’t asylum seekers making it impossible to get a GP appointment. It’s chronic NHS underfunding and staff shortages.
  • It isn’t asylum seekers who broke Britain’s economy. It’s the chaos of Brexit and years of political mismanagement.

The far-right wants people to believe Britain is “unsafe” because of migrants. The truth is Britain feels unsafe because people have been abandoned by their government.

The UK has a proud history of offering refuge from Jewish families fleeing the Holocaust to Ugandan Asians expelled by Idi Amin, to Syrians fleeing war. It has always claimed to be a place of fairness and justice.

But today, that identity is under attack. If the loudest voices become those shouting at hotels, Britain risks becoming a nation defined by hostility, not compassion.

The question is not just about asylum seekers. It is about who the British want to be. Do they want to be the people who slam the door on the desperate? Or do they want to be the people who stand against hate and demand real answers to the crises tearing communities apart?

The far-right does not need to “win” power to succeed. It only needs to make its ideas seem normal. Already, the rhetoric of “swarms,” “invasions,” and “safety” has entered mainstream conversation. Already, politicians on both sides adopt tougher stances, terrified of losing votes.

This is how democracy corrodes not in sudden coups, but in small shifts where exclusion becomes acceptable and cruelty becomes common sense.

A Call to Action

It’s not enough to shake our heads at these protests. The UK needs a different response:

  • Expose the lies. Misinformation about asylum seekers must be challenged loudly and consistently.
  • Hold politicians accountable. When leaders use dehumanising language, they must be called out for fuelling hate.
  • Redirect the anger. Britain’s problems are real, but they are political problems, not migrant problems.
  • Reclaim the narrative. Compassion, fairness, and solidarity are not weaknesses. They are the foundation of a strong society.

What’s happening outside asylum hotels is not just about immigration. It’s about Britain’s soul. It reveals a nation in crisis, where betrayal and despair have left people vulnerable to manipulation.

But there is still a choice. The UK can confront its real problems inequality, austerity, broken politics or it can continue to scapegoat the powerless. It can rebuild around compassion and justice or slide further into fear and division.

The far-right wants Britain to forget its history of refuge and pride itself on hostility. The question is whether Britain will let them.

 

 

 

 

Tuesday, 26 August 2025

Decolonisation Beyond Politics: The African Refusal

 Decolonisation is often spoken of as a historical moment, an event contained within the mid-twentieth century when African nations declared independence from European empires. Flags were raised, constitutions signed, and the old colonial powers forced to retreat from the continent they had carved into possessions. Yet what followed independence was not always freedom. The colonial state left behind more than soldiers and governors; it left its languages, its economies, its symbols, and its ways of thinking. It left structures of dependence so deep that to be “independent” often meant still looking outward for approval, for validation, for permission.

But today, across the African continent, we are witnessing something different something more profound. We are witnessing refusal.

Refusal is not merely opposition. It is not simply protest. Refusal is the act of saying no to the conditions that attempt to define us. It is the insistence on stepping outside the frameworks that diminish us, the courage to reject what has long been normalised. And refusal is taking shape not only in the streets, not only in the parliaments, but also in the languages we speak, the clothes we wear, the ways we understand ourselves.

In Burkina Faso, under the leadership of Ibrahim Traoré, refusal has become government policy. It has become a national ethos. And it offers a glimpse of what Africa’s future might look like if it chooses not merely to be free in theory, but free in practice.

The Burkinabè Example: Decolonisation in Action

When Captain Ibrahim Traoré assumed power in 2022, many outside observers dismissed him as just another young officer seizing the opportunity of instability. But what he has represented since then is more than a military takeover. His government has redefined the meaning of sovereignty, moving decolonisation out of the abstract realm of politics into the tangible spaces of culture, language, and daily life.

In December 2023, Burkina Faso’s transitional authorities declared that French would no longer be the country’s official language. Instead, French was reduced to the status of a “working language,” while the national languages Mòoré, Dioula, Fulfulde, Gourmantché, Bissa, and others were elevated to official recognition. This was not only a linguistic reform; it was a profound act of refusal. It refused the idea that law and governance must always speak in the tongue of the coloniser. It refused the silent assumption that modernity and progress are tied to Europe’s words. By translating the constitution and the anti-corruption law into indigenous languages, Traoré’s government declared that democracy belongs to the people who live it, not just to those who can read French.

In the courts, refusal has taken another form. Judges no longer don black satin robes imported from Europe. Instead, they now wear Faso Dan Fani, the handwoven cotton cloth that is a source of Burkinabè pride. This change may appear symbolic, but symbols matter. They shape the imagination. To see justice robed in Faso Dan Fani is to see justice rooted in local soil, not borrowed from a foreign culture. It is to remember that even law can be clothed in dignity that is ours.

Burkina Faso has also banned the import of second-hand clothes from Europe, a market that for decades has flooded African streets with discarded fashion. By saying no to this trade, the government is refusing the logic that Africa must wear the West’s leftovers. It is insisting on supporting local production, on weaving its future with its own threads.

Each of these decisions is political, yes, but they are also cultural. They are not just about statecraft; they are about identity. And identity is where the battle for decolonisation is truly fought.

Refusal, for me, has meant something similar, though lived on a personal scale. It has meant refusing to shrink myself into the images others made of me. Refusing to let racism decide the limits of my worth. Refusing to let disability be treated as silence or absence. Refusal has meant insisting on being heard in my own voice, even when others would rather, I repeat back theirs. When I see Burkina Faso translate its constitution into local languages, I recognise the same struggle: the fight to ensure that dignity speaks in its own tongue.

Traoré’s project is not without precedent. He walks in the footsteps of Thomas Sankara, the revolutionary leader of Burkina Faso in the 1980s, whose vision remains one of the most inspiring in Africa’s modern history.

Sankara understood that true independence required more than a flag. He renamed the country from Upper Volta, a colonial label, to Burkina Faso, the “land of upright people.” He urged Burkinabè citizens to wear local fabrics instead of imported suits, to eat food grown on Burkinabè soil rather than relying on foreign aid. He refused the domination of the International Monetary Fund and World Bank, declaring that debt was another form of slavery.

In this, Sankara was an early prophet of refusal. His assassination in 1987 interrupted his project, but the spirit of refusal he ignited never disappeared. Today, Ibrahim Traoré is reclaiming that inheritance, reviving Sankara’s radical commitment to dignity. To wear Faso Dan Fani in a courtroom, to reject second-hand imports, to elevate national languages these are echoes of Sankara’s conviction that freedom must be lived, not just declared.

Refusal, for me, has meant looking at inherited narratives and deciding not to carry them further. It has meant saying no to the ways history tries to script my life. Sankara’s refusal was continental, but mine, too, has been revolutionary in its own small way. In the face of those who reduce me, refusal has been survival. In that sense, I know exactly why refusal matters for nations it matters for people first.

Burkina Faso may be a focal point, but it is not alone. Across Africa, a wave of refusal is building.

In Mali and Niger, governments have expelled French troops, rejecting the idea that security can only come from external saviours. These states, alongside Burkina Faso, are now pursuing a confederation, exploring new forms of regional sovereignty that place African solidarity above Western alliances.

In Tanzania, the long-standing use of Swahili as the national language continues to serve as a powerful example of how indigenous languages can unify and empower a nation. In South Africa, debates over reclaiming African languages in education challenge the dominance of English and Afrikaans. Across the continent, young Africans are refusing to be defined by colonial tongues alone, insisting on the richness of their mother languages.

Culturally, too, there is refusal. In music, Afrobeats and Amapiano dominate global charts, no longer imitating Western pop but shaping global soundscapes. In fashion, designers are reviving traditional textiles and fusing them with modern styles, refusing to be mere consumers of Paris or Milan. In literature, African writers are rejecting the expectation to write “for the West,” centring their stories in African contexts without translation for a colonial gaze.

This is not coincidence. It is the emergence of a continental ethos: Africa is learning again how to say no.

Refusal, for me, has also meant saying no to second-hand identities. Just as Africa rejects discarded clothes, I have learned to reject the second-hand expectations imposed on me expectations of silence, compliance, invisibility. I have learned to say no to the stories handed down by those who would rather I disappear. Africa’s cultural refusal mirrors a personal one: we both insist on wearing what is truly ours.

A nation may raise its flag, but if its children are taught to despise their mother tongues, has it truly broken free? A country may have its own constitution, but if its people must wear the garments of Europe to feel dignified, is it truly sovereign? A continent may trade with the world, but if its people are dressed in the cast-offs of others, how can it claim self-respect?

Cultural decolonisation is about re-rooting identity in the soil of the people themselves. Refusal is creative: it clears the ground of dependency so that something new can be built. To refuse is not to close off possibilities, but to open them. When Burkina Faso refuses French linguistic dominance, it opens the possibility of justice understood in every village, of laws that speak to the farmer and the trader in their own words. When judges wear Faso Dan Fani, they not only refuse European robes they affirm that African cloth can carry the weight of justice.

Refusal becomes a path to affirmation.

And here again, the personal resonates with the political. Refusal, for me, has never been only about turning away it has always been about turning toward. Toward self-respect. Toward survival. Toward dignity. In my refusal to be diminished, I affirm the fullness of who I am. And so too does Africa, when it chooses refusal, affirm its potential to be whole.

Challenges of the Refusal

Yet refusal is not without risks. The global economy is tightly bound, and rejecting foreign imports can bring short-term hardship. Western powers do not easily tolerate disobedience; sanctions, diplomatic isolation, and economic retaliation often follow acts of refusal. There is also the danger that revolutionary language may be used to mask authoritarian practices, with leaders suppressing dissent in the name of sovereignty.

These challenges are real. But they do not erase the necessity of refusal. Rather, they highlight the courage it takes for nations like Burkina Faso, Mali, and Niger to walk this path. The refusal is costly, but dependence is costlier.

Across Africa, from the Sahel to the Cape, refusal is rising. It is not uniform, not without contradictions, not without setbacks. But it signals a turning of the tide.

Burkina Faso under Ibrahim Traoré is more than a national story; it is a symbol of continental possibility. It tells us that decolonisation is not finished. It is not a chapter closed in the twentieth century. It is alive, unfolding, demanding to be lived every day.

Refusal is not despair. Refusal is hope. It is the courage to imagine differently, to say no to what diminishes us so that we may say yes to what liberates us. It is a reminder that freedom is not given it is taken, insisted upon, embodied.

Refusal, for me, has always been about survival in a world that often tries to erase me. For Africa, refusal is about survival too. It is about dignity, sovereignty, and the right to dream its own dreams.

The question is not whether Burkina Faso alone can transform Africa. The question is whether Africa is ready to embrace refusal not as retreat, but as rebirth.

Because the age of refusal has begun. And with it, the chance for Africa to finally be free.

Postscript

We celebrate when Africa recognises itself in its languages, its cultures, its knowledge systems, and its people. But we do not celebrate nor accept authoritarian regimes that use identity as a mask for oppression. True decolonisation is not the replacement of one domination with another, but the affirmation of freedom, dignity, and self-determination for all African peoples.

Sunday, 24 August 2025

Remembering the Slave Trade, Honouring Resistance


Today, on the International Day for the Remembrance of the Slave Trade and its Abolition, we pause to remember one of history’s greatest crimes against humanity. The transatlantic slave trade uprooted millions, scattering them across the Atlantic through systems of violence that treated human beings as property, as cargo, as disposable. Yet even in the darkest of conditions, resistance endured.

Remembrance is not simply about mourning the past. It is about recognising the persistence of its legacies today and honouring the acts of survival, rebellion, and creativity that enslaved people carried forward.

Between the sixteenth and nineteenth centuries, over twelve million Africans were forcibly transported across the Atlantic. Millions more died before even boarding the ships captured in raids, lost on forced marches, or perishing in coastal forts.

The Middle Passage has become a symbol of this horror. Human beings were chained in the holds of ships, packed so tightly that movement was impossible. Disease swept through the vessels, killing many before they reached shore. Dysentery, smallpox, and starvation were rampant. Insurance claims reveal the chilling truth: enslaved Africans were thrown overboard so traders could claim compensation for “lost cargo.”

This was not just an economic system. It was an assault on humanity itself. Sylvia Wynter (2003) reminds us that the modern category of “Man” was constructed by designating others as less than human. The slave trade was one of the primary sites where this division was made material.

And yet, the enslaved were never merely passive victims. Resistance began long before the ships reached the Americas. Some mutinied on board, seizing control of vessels or forcing captains to turn back. Others resisted by refusing food, or by jumping into the sea rather than live in chains.

Everyday acts of survival were also resistance. To sing in one’s own language, to whisper prayers, to keep cultural knowledge alive, to braid seeds into one’s hair before boarding  all of these were ways of refusing total domination.

In Jamaica, resistance took organised form through the Maroons: communities of escaped Africans who built independent settlements in the mountains. Throughout the eighteenth century, the Maroons fought repeated wars against the British, defending their autonomy and forging treaties that recognised their freedom.

The island also saw large-scale uprisings. Tacky’s Rebellion (1760) brought together hundreds of enslaved people, shaking the colony and terrifying planters. Later, the Sam Sharpe Rebellion (1831–32) mobilised as many as 60,000 enslaved Jamaicans. Though brutally suppressed, it played a decisive role in pushing Britain toward abolition.

Across the Americas, uprisings were constant. The most famous remains the Haitian Revolution (1791–1804), which created the first Black republic and the only successful state founded by formerly enslaved people. C. L. R. James (1938) argued that Haiti forced Europe to confront its own hypocrisies the so-called universal rights of man were made real only by those who had been denied them.

These examples remind us that abolition was not gifted by benevolent reformers. It was fought for, demanded, and won through the courage and sacrifice of the enslaved themselves.

Slavery’s violence was not only physical; it was also an assault on memory. Names were stripped, kinship ties severed, languages suppressed. To erase the past was to control the future.

Today, erasure continues in different forms. Statues still stand for traders and planters, while the names of the enslaved remain unrecorded. School curriculums often reduce slavery to a footnote, focusing more on white abolitionists than on the enslaved people who resisted.

Hartman (2008) describes slavery’s afterlife: systemic racism, premature death, incarceration, and the ongoing disposability of Black life. Gilroy (1993) shows that the same trade also created the Black Atlantic a diasporic culture of music, thought, and survival that continues to shape the world.

To remember slavery is to confront this tension: it was both an attempt at annihilation and a site of extraordinary creativity and resistance.

The past is not over. Its structures remain.

Mbembe (2003) writes of necropolitics — the power to decide who lives and who dies. Under slavery, Black life was extracted as labour and discarded when no longer profitable. Today, the logic persists in mass incarceration, in migration detention centres, in health inequalities that leave Black communities disproportionately exposed to premature death.

Sharpe (2016) reminds us that we live “in the wake” of slavery. This wake is not a simple shadow of the past but a turbulent sea, constantly shaping how we live and move.

hooks (1989) warns against romanticising resistance. Rebellion was not easy or inevitable; it was costly, brutal, and often met with unimaginable violence. Yet to deny resistance is to deny humanity itself. Remembering means holding both truths together: the horror of domination and the insistence of survival.

What Remembrance Requires

Remembrance must be active. It cannot be reduced to annual rituals or empty words. It asks us to act.

  • Educate fully: Teach the history of slavery without euphemism. Go beyond stories of white abolitionists to centre the voices of the enslaved.
  • Acknowledge resistance: From Jamaican Maroons to the Haitian Revolution, we must remember that abolition was fought for, not handed down.
  • Repair: Reparations matter not only financial but symbolic, through investment in communities, the return of stolen artefacts, and dismantling systems that perpetuate racial injustice.
  • Transform: Inclusion without accessibility, or diversity without justice, is not enough. To remember slavery is to work for the abolition of racism, exploitation, and exclusion in all their forms.

To remember is to resist forgetting.

The transatlantic slave trade reshaped the modern world. Its scars remain in our economies, our institutions, our daily lives. But from that violence came resistance, resilience, and visions of freedom that continue to inspire.

When we speak of remembrance, let us not only grieve. Let us also honour the courage of those who fought and let us commit ourselves to finishing their work.

Abolition is not past tense. It is present and future.

#RemembranceDay #NeverForget #SlaveryAbolition #Justice

 


Monday, 25 May 2015

Happy Africa Day

Happy Africa Day!

An interesting poem from one of Africa's sons - David Diop


Africa my Africa
Africa of proud warriors in ancestral savannahs
Africa of whom my grandmother sings
On the banks of the distant river
I have never known you
But your blood flows in my veins
Your beautiful black blood that irrigates the fields
The blood of your sweat
The sweat of your work
The work of your slavery
Africa, tell me Africa
Is this your back that is unbent
This back that never breaks under the weight of humiliation
This back trembling with red scars
And saying no to the whip under the midday sun
But a grave voice answers me
Impetuous child that tree, young and strong
That tree over there
Splendidly alone amidst white and faded flowers
That is your Africa springing up anew
springing up patiently, obstinately
Whose fruit bit by bit acquires
The bitter taste of liberty.
 
Food for thought!

Wednesday, 29 May 2013

Men and Cheating!


Have you ever wondered why men cheat?
 
 
It’s in His Genes


Men have higher levels of testosterone. This hormone, which also causes risky behavior and increased levels of violence in men, “influences” guys to cheat .Now, this isn’t an excuse – don’t try telling your girlfriend or wife that it was the testosterone that made you do it – it’s just a scientific fact that makes it harder for men to keep their hands to themselves. Essentially, it shouldn’t take a lot of willpower for men to stay loyal; it isn’t like the testosterone is whispering, “Sleep with the cute blonde girl now!” Rather, this hormone only acts as a fuel – the man holds the keys.


He Needs Sexual Fulfilment

Many men turn to infidelity when they aren’t being fulfilled in the bedroom Sure, it sounds like a pretty shallow reason for seeking another woman’s company, but sex (or lack thereof) can be a deal breaker for many men. Maintaining a healthy sex life is an integral part of any relationship, and it can definitely keep a man’s eyes from wandering. But, once again, it’s important to keep in mind that going a few days or weeks without any sex is not an excuse to go cheat on your woman.


He Needs an Ego Boost

Men like feeling powerful and in control, and it’s possible that they feel empowered when they have multiple sexual partners. Most guys also like feeling accomplished and successful, and they’re more inclined to start a romance with women who give them confidence. This might explain why 40% of men find their “cheating partners” at work. Regardless, this ego boost can encourage men to continue with their sexual indiscretion. Now, it takes a pretty insecure man to be unfaithful just because it helps his confidence; self-assurance should be gained from within. ...


 He Doesn’t Love Her

This is the true, underlying cause for many cases of infidelity. If you aren’t really feeling the spark, then why are you together? Love is the glue that holds the relationship together. Without it, there isn’t much keeping men (and women) from doing things that may harm one another. The respect, faithfulness, and honesty that come with love may disappear when trust is broken, but if the love was never present (or if it has faded away) then men are more likely to cheat without remorse. For the sake of the relationship, it’s important to make sure that both people are feeling the love before they decide to get serious.

He’s doing it for Revenge

Maybe his girlfriend or wife cheated on him, and the only way he can get over it is to do the same thing she did to him…it’s missing a bit of logic, but it’s a plausible scenario. After all, some men just aren’t very good at expressing their feelings. Of course, the first step would be to communicate with his unfaithful partner.


Regardless of the reasons listed above, cheating isn’t likely to solve any of the underlying problems in a relationship. Along with that, cheating goes against the fundamental trust required of any fulfilling relationship. When sexual indiscretion takes place, the relationship takes a huge hit to the core, sometimes destroying the trust, honesty, and love that were once intrinsic to it. So, if you find yourself considering cheating, it may be time to re-evaluate your relationship – not just for your own sake, but also for the sake of your partner.

Talk to your partner!

Thursday, 14 March 2013

Things not to wear for work


Just some tips for work. Ladies what do you think?

 

1. Leggings

Tights, leggings, whatever you call them – don’t wear them to work. Actually, unless you’re going to gym or covering up your nether regions with a long enough dress, don’t ever wear leggings as pants.

It doesn’t matter how skinny you are – no one wants to see your bum cheeks or the occasional camel toe. This is such a major no no!

Rather try: Jeggings. More jean, less legging. But it shouldn’t look like pantyhose.

2. Plakkies

You’re not at the beach and there’s really no need to flip flop around the office. You’ll end up looking sloppy and unprofessional.

Rather try: Pretty embellished sandals

3. Shorts

Yes, I know it might be hot but  like I mentioned above, this isn’t the beach. You are not on holiday. You’re in an office and you need to look professional – even if the vibe is laid back.

Rather try: A maxi dress. You’ll still feel summery, but without looking like a lady of the night.

4. See-through shirts

Sheer shirts might be all the hype right now, but showing off your lacey bra to everyone at work is not a good idea. So, instead of exposing Victoria’s Secret, rather wear a simple strappy top underneath and trust me, you’ll still look pretty!

Rather try: Layers. It’s easy: Bra – strappy top – then sheer shirt.

5. Cleavage

Yes, you heard me – don’t wear your cleavage to work. Leave those puppies at home, or at least, tuck them away till after 17:30.

Rather try: Balance. Wear a statement neckpiece or a beautifully patterned top. You can be sexy without being slutty.

 

Tuesday, 26 February 2013

Relationships: Things that might sabotage them



There are some things that will sabotage or damage any relationship, regardless of how well you might think things are going.


So, how is your relationship going? Coasting along, or are you skirting in between the landmines? These are seven things that will sabotage any relationship.

 
Jealousy. Possessiveness and jealousy on your part will only make your partner feel trapped. This could lead to them wanting to get away from you, because you make them feel claustrophobic. Ironically the single thing you wanted to prevent.

 
Sexual problems. If you are having sexual problems, and are unable to talk about them, or get it together to go for professional help, alarm bells should be ringing. Different people have different sexual needs, so once a week may be quite sufficient for one partner, but not for the other.


Old issues. Long shadows from the past can cast a pall over present relationships. If you have abandonment issues, self-image issues, self-worth issues, drug issues, dependency issues or endless financial issues, it is unrealistic to expect them not to have an impact on the relationship you are currently having.

 
Financial woes. Financial worry is part and parcel of life – few couples never have these. But constant agonising about money, running up of debts and misspending can cause a lot of tension in any relationship. When couples are unable to synchronise their spending habits or their financial values, trouble looms.


Parenting styles. Parents need to present a united front to their children. If one parent allows the kids to do things and the other forbids it, it causes confusion for the children and stress in relationships. When children are stepchildren, this becomes even more important. Parents need to decide on certain ground rules and stick to them.

 
In-law troubles. When parents are unhappy with your choice of spouse, or parents are unwilling to let go of their child and let him/her start a new life, it causes great trouble for the couple. There is ongoing stress and family dramas and everyone feels they are being pulled in different directions.


Old flames. Sometimes there are old boyfriends or girlfriends who just won't back off. This can cause endless dramas and jealous fits. If it really upsets your partner that you see an old flame, weigh up the different issues here. Is a cup of tea with an old boyfriend really worth an unpleasant atmosphere at home for days? On the other hand, does your partner perhaps have a reason to feel insecure.

 

Careful what you do

 

Thursday, 21 February 2013

How to deal with annoying Colleagues



Some of us are lucky; we work with great people whom we truly consider as family. Some of us, however, are not so lucky. This article is for them.

So you work with someone who constantly grates your nerves but you aren’t sure how to approach the matter? Don’t worry; you’re not alone, this happens to most of us at some time or another in our career.

One good thing to remember is that the colleague irritating you may not even be aware of his or her behaviour. Constant chatting, gossiping, rudeness, incessant pen clicking, coffee slurping – all highly irritating habits that, depending on our mood, can either be tolerable or absolutely maddening.

But how do you get them to stop? I hear you asking…

Try out these simple tips – you might be surprised at the response.

1. Just say it, but say it nicely.

Tell your colleague exactly what it is they do that’s driving you up the wall, but tell them nicely – if it’s something simple like pen clicking the chances are that they aren’t even aware of their annoying behaviour.

If the annoying behaviour is more like gossiping, let your colleague know how you feel about it and that you don’t want to be a part of it, bringing up the issue is usually enough to stop it.

2. Extend a hand in friendship.


Sometimes making a concerted effort to be nice to a problem colleague can see them doing a complete turnaround in how they treat you. If the annoying behaviour is aimed at you, simply getting to know the person a bit more can help you both to understand each other.

3. Keep things in perspective.

If your colleagues are in the habit of stopping by your desk to gossip or chat, and this socialising is getting in the way of your productivity, you will need to let your co-workers know that you have priorities. Arrange to chat after hours or during your lunch break, but be clear about your boundaries while working.

4. Fight fire with fire, but carefully.

If the problems you’re having involve a co-worker being rude to you or constantly shooting down your ideas, repeat the behaviour back to them, but explain afterwards why you were dismissive or rude and let them know how it makes you feel when they do the same to you.

Be careful to not overstep here, if you need to take the matter further you don’t want your colleague to be able to say you’ve been doing the same things.

5. Report the problem co-worker.


When you are unable to resolve the conflict between yourself and your colleague alone, it might be time to take further action.

If the actions of a co-worker are hindering your ability to work, or making your job unpleasant, you may have to report the individual to management and allow the matter to follow the prescribed procedure – but this should only be done as a last resort.

Tuesday, 19 February 2013

The Curse of living in diaspora


Certain people would think I am crazy to be washing some of Africa’s dirty linens in public, and yes I am doing exactly that. It’s the begging mentality. Don’t shoot the messenger. I have been asked to write about this and as an author, I can never resist. I have always been admired people who work. One man for himself, and God for all is what I think has made some countries develop especially in Europe. That works well but also the state carry the burden. In these countries those who work do work and very hard, yet there is a percentage that sits on their back side for the state benefit system. The benefit system was from my understanding introduced so people can have some help while they are in between jobs or when they suddenly found themselves out of work. However because of the greedy nature of human beings everywhere, some people actually decide not to work and become benefit scroungers. Don’t get me wrong, there are some genuinely fighting hard to get back to work.

 In some of the African cultures including mine, children are expected to look after the parents in old age. I don’t have a problem with that. The problem is when adults who can work sit on their backside in Africa, waiting for the relations in the diaspora to send the hard earned pounds/dollar/euro every month. It might not be hard earned money but the point is we all have a responsibility to look after ourselves. Some people have been known to resign from ‘’low paying jobs’’ in Africa because a cousin in the UK or Canada can help them. This kind of behaviour is the root of all evil in my opinion.

My article is not about about Europe though but readers think of the similarities. Most Africans would agree with me that we have always looked after each other‘s back- families and even the extended families. Nothing wrong with that but all of a sudden those who moved abroad found themselves in this difficult situation. Here is how those left home think:

·         There is so much money in the diaspora -ALWAYS.

·         You have to help them even when you say you have no money

·         They are suffering back home and they must be helped

·         If you say NO to their demands, it’s not because you don’t have but you are just being mean

·         There are so many opportunities abroad and you can’t be out of work at any point

·         So and so bought their brother/sister a house so why don’t you buy one for me?

·         You have been in the diaspora this long but you have nothing?(forgetting you were busy paying fees and helping out everyone)

·         Money and more money

·         People are always partying here, so let’s all share

·         Economic situations like recession only affect Africa, not Europe

The list is endless but it’s all about GIVE, GIVE, GIVE. To make it worse sometimes you are lucky to get a thank you even after sacrificing for them. These people do not scrounge the state, but their relatives who are working hard to sustain themselves and their family where ever they live. Even so, some people lie in order to extort money from their families abroad. There has been an increased report of relative who had actually stopped working and expect their families in the diaspora to pay their bills. Helping is good and it feels good to help somebody. Is it helping if it becomes a burden on the other person?

Here is the truth:

·         People in diaspora have got bills, University fees, mortgages etc to pay

·         People are working odd shifts in order to make ends meet

·         People are making sacrifices in order to send money to relations back home

·         Some people back in Africa live a worry free life because they know all their needs are taken care by relations in diaspora

·         When people want money they manipulate your and lie in order to make you give them more money.

·         People here have no social life as they are working most of the time to feed these demands.

 (The list is endless- Most African people in diaspora would know what I am talking about)

Do they have to do this? Yes, we have always been taught to look after our own? And yet, this has now ceased to be helping but being scrounged by our own.

Don’t get me wrong, I have done my research and I have spoken to people from Kenya, Zimbabwe, Botswana and many others and it’s the same story- working for the whole clan. What has made some of our people so lazy? Surely it should be every able bodied man’s responsibility to look after themselves rather than all the time expect hand outs from other people. Mind you in Africa it’s not the state that is scrounged, it’s those living and working in diaspora

I did ask those I spoke to what they thought went wrong?

I was told those of us abroad have made it difficult for ourselves. Here is how we helped dig our graves

·         Having left home for greener pastures or whatever reason, we have to prove to friends and relations that we made the right decision.

How do we prove this? - By claiming to have a life we do not actually have, talking money that we do not have.

·         Not telling people the truth

·         Pride

·         Just being able to say No and mean it.

The problem is once you start giving it’s hard to wean these parasites. They want more and more and more. You always feel guilty and sometimes you get so much pressure from other relations and may be in the end give.

My view - Nothing wrong with helping when you have got enough but doing this every month, being lied to and being asked to support projects that do not exist, I would call this being manipulated.

Thanks to those who agreed to talk to me on this issue.

Saturday, 16 February 2013

And here is to a great love relationship….



It takes effort for relationships to work and stay intact. Here are a few tips.
 

Use your head, not just your heart, when picking a man and look at the whole package before making your choice.

Know the difference between lust and love – it will save you a lot of heartache.

Learn to voice your desires: Your partner isn't psychic and he can't make you happy unless you let him know what fulfills you.

Work at your relationship: A close bond is forged through hard work and constant attention; it's not automatic.

Don't let yourself go: You don't have to bring sexy back but being clean and presentable goes a long way.

Understand that your feelings may change over time: you won't stay drunk with joy forever but that doesn't mean you don't love each other.

There is a difference between sex and intimacy: Sex is one avenue to intimacy. Intimacy involves talking and revealing every facet of yourself – the good, the bad and the ugly.

Communicate, communicate, communicate! Talking about everything is the only way you'll deal with problems, maintain intimacy and know if you're on the same wavelength.

 Understand that you're a unit, but you're both also individuals and your partner is not responsible for your personal happiness – you are. Have a life outside your relationship.

Learn to apologise – even if you don't always say "sorry", making up after an argument is crucial

Tuesday, 12 February 2013

Make up mistakes not to make



Mistake 1: too much make-up


Applying too much foundation and mascara are common mistakes. Foundation must never give the impression you are wearing a mask – too much can also emphasise fine lines and wrinkles. Too much mascara can look unnatural and become messy by the end of the day.

 

Solution: Invest in a good foundation or concealer and apply only where necessary. Give your eyes and lips a natural look by day, and ensure that your mascara doesn't leave clumps.

 

Mistake 2: not blending make-up properly


When it comes to eye shadow, the rainbow effect is taboo, as are hard lines around the eyes and lips. If you try to create 'contours ' with bronzer or blusher, or try to emphasise your cheekbones in this way, chances are the result will be a grubby- looking face.

 

Solution: Take a critical look at your made-up face: Are any lines visible? If so, blend them for a softer effect. Avoid liquid eyeliner unless you are able to apply it extremely neatly. Alternatively, use a small, stubby brush to apply eye shadow instead of eyeliner for a softer effect. When applying blusher, concentrate on the apples of your cheeks – the colour will emphasise the rounded part of your cheek and naturally accentuate the hollow beneath it.

 

Mistake 3: neglected teeth


Your smile is often the first thing that people notice on meeting you. Teeth that are well cared for are not only healthy but will take years off your appearance.

Solution: Floss and brush regularly, and have broken or chipped teeth attended to. If your teeth have yellowed, consult your dentist about whitening them

.

Mistake 4: unkempt or over-plucked eyebrows


Eyebrow fashions change as often as hemlines do – don’t follow the latest eyebrow fashions slavishly. Never pluck your eyebrows too heavily – sometimes they don’t grow back or they grow back in all directions.

 

Solution: Maintain eyebrows of fair thickness and pluck in a neat, natural line. Fill any gaps with brown eye shadow and a fine brush, but ensure that there are no obvious lines.

 

Mistake 5: make-up that is too bright


Brightly coloured eye make-up and mascara may be the height of fashion but is not intended for everyday use, because it looks hard and unnatural. It can also make you look older. Forget about the old-fashioned idea of matching your eye shadow with your eye colour. Shades of bronze and brown flatter all eye colours.

 

Solution: Leave the bright-blue eye shadow, eyeliner and mascara to the teenagers and rather go for neutral brown, grey-brown, beige and bronze, which always look more stylish. Experiment with different shades of lipstick, but avoid colours such as shocking pink and make sure that the shade suits your complexion.

 

Mistake 6: lip liner competing with lipstick


This is probably one of the commonest make-up mistakes: too-dark lip liner contrasting with lighter-coloured lipstick. Lip liner has many advantages – it prevents lipstick from 'bleeding ' and helps it last longer – but it must be applied correctly.

Solution: Choose lip liner in the same shade as your lipstick – especially if it is a dark colour. Otherwise, choose one that is one or two shades darker than your natural lip colour. Apply it over the entire lip area before applying lipstick or gloss, as this will prevent you ending the day with a line around your mouth.

Mistake 7: end-of-the-day make-up


Check your eye shadow regularly. Because of the natural oils protecting the eye area, shadow tends to smudge, especially if it is cream-based. Foundation can also appear streaky during the day as a result of an oily T-panel or perspiration.

Solution: Apply foundation to the eye area followed by powder to set it before applying powder eye shadow. Restrict cream shadow to the eyebrow area. Set foundation with loose powder.

Mistake 8: neglected hands and feet


Well-cared-for hands and feet neatly round off your appearance and, with little expense and effort, are within everyone's reach. Neglected hands and nails, or cracked heels can ruin your entire appearance.

Solution: Apply hand cream regularly – keep a tube in your handbag and at every tap in your home. Prevent cracked heels by regularly applying moisturising cream to your feet and buffing hardened skin. Give regular attention to your fingernails and toenails, or have a regular manicure and pedicure.

Mistake 9: no hairstyle


A hastily tied ponytail, hair clipped to the top or sides of your head, or scraped back with an elasticised headband are temporary solutions for a visit to the gym or for working in the garden, but cannot be called a hairstyle.

Solution: Visit the hairdresser at least every two months for a good haircut – it can transform your appearance and crown a well-groomed face and body.

 

Look after yourself!

 

Sunday, 10 February 2013

Procrastination: Are you guilty as Charged?



Procrastination is a way of delaying the inevitable - a way of avoiding reality. It's our way of putting off a task that should be actioned in the present moment into the future - a future that is bound to happen whether we would like it to or not.

When we procrastinate, we know we should be doing something but yet we keep doing something else instead... things we feel we would "enjoy" more now.

We tend to procrastinate on the tasks that we perceive to bring us less joy in the present moment and the irony of this is that it could very well be that one thing that could eventually bring us the most joy - when all we had to do was put in the effort!

Procrastination can bring feelings of regret, so why put off that task you know needs doing so that you can have peace of mind? Do you not feel better about your circumstances when you have knowingly put in effort and have been productive?

We have all been slaves to procrastination at one time or another and it can be a real effort to pick ourselves up and start taking action.

With that said, here are some of my favourite ways to do just that, and I sure do hope you can find some inspiration here too:

1. Change your environment.

Sometimes certain environments can trigger feelings we have associated with it - typically based on past events and actions. So, for example, if you know that when you park your behind on the couch to eat your breakfast that you will become a couch potato because you know you would just end up watching TV all day - by all means, do not put yourself there!

Change things up - physically take yourself out of that situation you created and go have your breakfast at the kitchen counter, dinner table, or outside on the patio, and when you do - just have your breakfast, and do it mindfully.

2. Create a to do list with small deadlines.

If you feel overwhelmed with everything you have to do - write it down! Make a list of tasks and cross them off one by one as you action them.

There is something very satisfying about physically crossing items off a list. There is also a lot of writing out there that tell you to "eat the frog for breakfast" - to get the biggest tasks out of the way first so you can enjoy the rest of your day.

Remember to put a deadline on your tasks, be it in minutes, hours, days, weeks or months. Be as specific as possible and that way you will have something to work towards.

3. Realize the task is a lot simpler than you make it out to be.

When you break it down into smaller, more doable tasks, you will realize you have been putting it off for no reason. Say, for instance, you would like to write a book.

Writing a book a big task and can take months before it will be completed! If you don't break it down into bite-sized chunks, or create smaller doable deliverables over a period of time, it could end up becoming something you'd never get done all because it all seemed so overwhelming!

Create step by step tasks, with specific deadlines attached to each and follow through.

4. Reward yourself.

Whenever you complete your tasks by the allotted deadlines, reward yourself! But remember not to let the "rewarding" process end up becoming your procrastination process. Decide which tasks will require a reward and what the reward will be, and stick to it. Straying from it could make you end up veering away from the actual goal.

5. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to take action.


There's a saying that states that you become who you hang out with. So be sure to surround yourself with those that support you, those that are a living success of the goals you are trying to achieve.

Those that can give you the advice and the push you need in order to get what you want.

Use various mediums to find these people, whether they're part of a social group you belong to or even online!

6. Tell others about your goals.

When you tell others about your goals, you're affirming them as well as holding yourself accountable for them. Get the word out there - share them with your family and friends, that way they will constantly ask you how your plans are going in working towards that goal.

It's a sure-fire to make yourself responsible for the actions you need to take in order to achieve it.

7. Get over yourself and just do it!

Wherever you are, make a conscious decision to pick yourself up and take action! Remember to keep the momentum going after completing tasks, as soon as you start slacking it will become an endless spiral and so you end up procrastinating again. Suck it up and just do what you need to do - you owe it to yourself.

Remember, procrastinating can make you go in circles and you could end up being stuck in a rut. You should consistently action tasks that help you to advance your life.

Follow these tips and you will be well on your way to achieving your goals and have everything you ever wanted in your life. You have the power to make it happen.