Here are 5 ways to keep your cool when counting to 10 no longer works…
1. Distance yourself.
Get space and take a timeout from the person or circumstance that is fuelling your frustration. Sometimes a break is all that is required as it gives you an opportunity to think before you act and it gives you time to rationalize the situation so when the time is right, you can deal with it better.
2. Be non-confrontational.
Go ahead and express your feelings constructively. It may be hard at first, but bear in mind that an unnecessary outburst can only make your situation worse.
3. Think before you speak.
When we’re angry, it’s easy to say things – often on impulse - that we don’t actually mean. Once you’re calm, rather grab a pen and paper and jot down everything you want to say first.
4. Avoid resentment.
Begrudging will only make dealing with issues more difficult. Learn to forgive. It’s an instant mood-enhancer.
5. Laugh about it.
Seriously. Making light of a trivial situation will ease your tension and release pent-up stress. Also, try to avoid sarcasm and cynicism when talking about what bothers you. It’s petty and doesn’t help your cause